Being the older, wiser man is a power trip for him.And that's all about , the said power trip he is getting off on should be overt.Pay attention to your looks: As you get older your looks will likely become harder to maintain.While this is not massively a problem and a lot of women like older men partly for their looks it is still not attractive if you do not take extra care of yourself." Puke.) But mostly, it's the fact that he's your first.Not necessarily just sexually, but myriad other ways, too: The first guy you watch with, the guy who buys you a copy of Pink Floyd's "Dark Side of The Moon," the first one in the passenger's seat as soon as you get your learner's permit...Which is one of those things where, yeah, it happened, but asteroids also hit the Earth occasionally and we all still leave our houses without wearing full-body protective Plexiglass domes. He might be running from a bad relationship with a woman his age. It's great how you guys are on the same emotional level, right! It's the emotional version of going from breast buds to boobs! If he had a nasty breakup with (or for older men, a nasty divorce from) someone in his demographic, there's a good shot that's why he's with you — someone who, ostensibly, can't hurt him. (Wrong.) He's in a different generation than you; he shouldn't be a decade behind emotionally.
In other words you are meant to be their partner in crime and not their Dad so lighten up and you might even benefit from living a little again.Among the biggest reasons that he likes you is because you're young.Yes, he might be into you because you like the same bands and you act "mature for your age." (Has he ever told you that you have "an old soul? However cool it makes you is exactly how lame it makes him.You might feel like Joan Jett when he picks you up in his Seville outside the high school in front of all your friends, but he is being mercilessly mocked by all of the women in his life for dating a 14-year-old.2.However as a lot of women like older men for their maturity and for having already established themselves, often it is not a fantasy that is out of rich and one that you may well end up living.Of course however like all fantasies, the reality is often very different from what you imagined, and while there are some very obvious strong points for dating younger women, there are also some downsides and difficulties.You need to make sure that she knows that if she cheats on you or betrays your trust in any way, then you will leave her.However on the other hand if you are happy for her to play fast and loose in your relationship and feel it is worth it for the companionship and the sex, then it is entirely your call if you want to overlook any promiscuity.And if you tell them, you'll deal with all-out fights.9. No matter how special he insists you are, the chances are that he's been dating younger girls for years.10. I know hearing that is like sticking a fork in your chest and ripping your heart out. Maybe you're sure that you won't be dramatic about it, like "other girls." But that shit tends to sneak up on you. And maybe somewhere down the road, things will be different for both of you.And it doesn't mean you're weak or naïve— it just means that you value yourself. If he's married, he's not going to leave his wife for you. Let me rephrase that: It probably last, because as you get older, you'll change (which is normal and great so don't fight it! But the only way for that to happen is to let it end when it's supposed to.