With all of these different perspectives, we can’t help but wonder, should we consider online dating or not?
As a twenty-nine-year-old unmarried Christian woman, I’ve done my fair share of reading, praying, and thinking through how to best honor God in the area of romantic relationships.
I’ve had multiple conversations and read many blogs and articles about online dating.
I’ve decided to boil all of that information down into this one teeny-tiny blog post.
This system is a key factor in e Harmony’s matching success and the main point of differentiation between our service and that of other traditional Christian dating services. It’s a relationship site for singles looking to find long-term, committed relationships.
Online dating sites are well known for matching guys and girls up according to personality, religion, and preferences, etc. (That’s how they make the matches.) I’ve read in several places that many online dating sites aren’t totally secure, making it somewhat easy for hackers to get into your account and access your info. It can be difficult to know the true beliefs, convictions, and character of the guys you meet. God is working in your life and giving you opportunities to grow and become more like Jesus. Think through the possible work God might have for you to do in this season of singleness before getting online.
Many believe that this helps narrow down the options and gives a better chance of relationship success. Online dating is often for the purpose of finding your lifelong match. You’re a girl going online and getting to know total strangers. It’s not possible to know with certainty that the person on the other side of the screen is safe. I’ve heard several people who’ve used online dating say that it requires a lot of time to create a profile, keep up with emails, and get to know the different potentials. Your life is about reflecting Christ and pointing others to Him, not to find a date or a mate.
Guys online will most likely appreciate a girl who’s intentional about marriage and who’s interested in a guy doing the same. Before you create your online dating profile, consider whether you have that time to spend at this stage of your life. Fully strive to trust in Him, rely on Him, and rest in Him, and ask for His guidance as you consider online dating.
If you’ve ever thought about using online dating, I highly encourage you to think, pray, and weigh the pros and cons before ever getting online.
Don’t do it blindly or in a hurry because your friends encourage you to do it. If you’re motivated to start clicking because you’re wrestling with fear you will never get married, I’d encourage you to wait. It can help differentiate the intentional from the non-intentional.