What’s not okay is to expect potential suitors to conform to a long list of demands.If you see a profile that specifies a required height/weight, salary, or supermodel looks, or includes domineering phrases like “I need …” or “I won’t tolerate …,” consider whether you could ever live up to this person’s impossible standards.“I should’ve taken that as a sign, but I figured it was Friday night, so I shouldn’t judge.When we met up in person, he was a [jerk] and kept asking me if I ‘liked to party.’” So a good rule of thumb is: if your date is drunk the first time you talk to him on the phone, end it there.“No one expects to meet in person after just a couple of emails, but if you’ve been corresponding regularly, it’s expected that you’ll take your relationship offline.If the person doesn’t even want to talk on the phone or meet for coffee, it’s okay to wonder what his motivations are.A person who constantly makes plans and then cancels them, or who can talk on the phone only at certain times of the day, either has an incredibly demanding job or is not quite as single as she claims.
Whether you love or loathe Tinder, there is no denying it has changed online dating forever.
That is, until you receive a message or phone call confessing that the picture he sent wasn’t really him, and that he’s actually five years older than he claimed, but now that you’ve gotten to know him, that shouldn’t be a problem, right? The intent is to trick potential dates into falling for their “inner beauty,” but all this ruse really reveals about someone is that he’s a liar.
People who employ this tactic generally aren’t tender souls who are afraid of rejection; they’re just not confident enough to be themselves.
But the good ones are indeed out there, and luckily, the bad ones usually reveal themselves early in the process.
Watching out for these warning signs can make it easier to take a relationship from email to in-person.