Spiritual: Some well-intentioned Christian couples begin devotionals or prayer times with one another.These are both great practices, but they also need boundaries.In essence, Paul is saying that we need to learn to control ourselves.We are not to take advantage of others – whether it's taking physical liberties or pressing for another type of intimacy.Our relationship with God is perhaps the most intimate thing we have.When we invite others into this, we are inviting them into intimacy. First Thessalonians 4:3-7 says, "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you.If both parties know the limits beforehand, maintaining boundaries becomes easier.Boundaries for physical touch should be a matter of prayer and discussion.
With this in mind, let's explore some boundary guidelines.
Recognizing personal healthy boundaries is the first step, but physical boundaries should be mutually established prior to physical contact.
In the heat of the moment, it is difficult to stop a kiss that is later regretted.
Emotional intimacy occurs when couples share their inner thoughts with one another and rely on one another for emotional support.
To an extent, dating couples will become increasingly emotionally intimate. As people begin to know and trust one another, they become more deeply emotionally linked.