Without knowing what to look for, you could be wasting months (or years) of your dating life with the wrong partner.
Having gone through many lacklustre relationships and knowingly spent years of my life in ill-fitting pairings, this is a list that I wish I had been able to read when I was a teenager.
Sure, communication you have one-on-one is a million times more important than performing your relationship over social media, but radio silence on the internet kind of makes it seem like they're trying to keep the relationship hidden., you may need to redefine your relationship.10. While you guys go out and do fun things all the time, it's becoming more and more apparent that you're the only one who orchestrates them.
Or maybe you've been dating for quite some time now. The forces that compel you to move forward are not out to destroy you.In either case, you have probably found that many forces push you forward in your relationship. You need to decide what to do with this relationship; no other person can make that decision for you.As a counselor, I've spoken with people who didn't take the time to think through their relationship.They acted solely on their feelings and tied the knot.Once married, they wanted to be faithful to that covenant, but they experienced difficulties that could have been avoided. Perhaps you recently met someone who caught your interest, and you're hoping that with time you'll be able to discern if the relationship should move toward marriage. Even books on the subject of dating and marriage can convey a subtle expectation to keep moving forward: "Trust God," "differences are good," and "hey, nobody's perfect." All of that's true.You've identified the other person's strengths, but have also discovered some traits that leave you scratching your head. Well-meaning friends and relatives might be inquiring about your love life, wondering when you plan on taking "the plunge." Your own sense of loneliness and that God-given desire for connection can nudge you further in a relationship until the steps toward the altar just seem to get easier and easier. But with so many of them urging you toward marriage, it's wise to pause and ask yourself some questions that might prevent heartache down the road.If you live with the mindset of “Well I took out the garbage/did the dishes/initiated sex last time, so it’s their turn today” then you are doomed to suffocate the life out of your partnership.Don’t do this, and don’t tolerate your partner doing it to you.Every relationship that I’ve ever been in where I was head over heels over my partner I couldn’t stop talking about my partner.They were the greatest thing to happen to me in recent memory and I wanted to show them off to everyone.